Seek Therapy for Loss and Grief
When and why see a therapist for loss and grief.
It’s an individual decision. Some people never consider asking for help or talking to a therapist, because
they are too proud, defensive or afraid. Or often we just sweep our problems under the rug and go on with life.
Of course, some people never need to see a therapist because they have learned how to deal with grief, loss
and turmoil and have adequate support from others to weather the storms of life.
Others may find enough help from their faith, prayer, meditation, yoga, guided imagery, exercise, support
groups and medication.
Yet others may choose to talk to a trained and skilled psychotherapist or counselor.
When do I need help for Grief and Loss?
We cannot escape the trauma of sickness, death and loss. But often we are poorly prepared for the
tragedy when it hits our family. Usually we weather the grief, passing through its painful process in a matter of
days, weeks or months.
However, sometimes we get stuck in grief, which can trigger a major depression or a traumatic reaction. It can
even trigger post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
Also, death and grief can tear a family apart at a time when unity, support and cooperation are needed.
Family members can disagree about who, when and how to take care of affairs, which can trigger family feuds.
Therefore, seek help when you or a family member experiences:
When in doubt about needs, you may talk to your doctor or call and discuss your situation with a therapist.
Mr. Lohkamp is a Licensed Social Worker, knowledgeable about community resources, support groups and
other services. He can assist you with a referral elsewhere, if needed. .
What to look for in a therapist:
It’s an individual decision. Some people never consider asking for help or talking to a therapist, because
they are too proud, defensive or afraid. Or often we just sweep our problems under the rug and go on with life.
Of course, some people never need to see a therapist because they have learned how to deal with grief, loss
and turmoil and have adequate support from others to weather the storms of life.
Others may find enough help from their faith, prayer, meditation, yoga, guided imagery, exercise, support
groups and medication.
Yet others may choose to talk to a trained and skilled psychotherapist or counselor.
When do I need help for Grief and Loss?
We cannot escape the trauma of sickness, death and loss. But often we are poorly prepared for the
tragedy when it hits our family. Usually we weather the grief, passing through its painful process in a matter of
days, weeks or months.
However, sometimes we get stuck in grief, which can trigger a major depression or a traumatic reaction. It can
even trigger post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
Also, death and grief can tear a family apart at a time when unity, support and cooperation are needed.
Family members can disagree about who, when and how to take care of affairs, which can trigger family feuds.
Therefore, seek help when you or a family member experiences:
- o Major Depression
o Acute stress or traumatic reaction
o Family conflict or relation issues
o Overwhelming circumstances
When in doubt about needs, you may talk to your doctor or call and discuss your situation with a therapist.
Mr. Lohkamp is a Licensed Social Worker, knowledgeable about community resources, support groups and
other services. He can assist you with a referral elsewhere, if needed. .
What to look for in a therapist:
- · Look for a therapist, who is trained and experienced in a variety of counseling
skills and helpful methods related to loss and grief.
· Consider a therapist who is likable, pleasant and, most of all, a good listener.
· The therapist should be positive and skilled in helping the client identify his or her
personal strengths, resources, skills and positive traits.
· The therapist should be understanding and sensitive to all the problems the client
presents, but also have a good sense of humor and a positive, hopeful spirit.
· Although not essential, it may be beneficial to seek a therapist who has
weathered grief and loss issues and is able to share these experiences.
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by Paul Lohkamp, MSW, LCSW